What is it about then? Please educate me, cause I really want to know and leave alone knowing, understanding too. I feel like am just about to sound like my mother, mmmnh smh! I suppose this is one of those instances where I have to agree with what mama Ella has been saying all this time! Though I would love to be disagreeing! I mean, doesn’t feel so good when you lose and mum wins and you have to say ‘yes mum you were right!’ as if she’s ever been wrong…
So, have you ever had those moments or had that time when you are in the company of your friends or your circle and you just having fun, chilling then someone makes a comment and you laugh but the moment you walk away or they leave the statement or the joke gets to you and you are like ‘yoo!!! man! that guy must have been talking about me or rather, it must be that experience I had on that day’. It hits you sooo hard and in as much it was a joke couple of minutes ago, its turned into serious stuff!
So this happened to me!
Been down memory lane and I thought hard, before exercising my freedom of speech, I did exercise that of thought and that is why am writing about this! Today!
Here is what mama Ella asked, why must you have a boyfriend? I did not have a concrete answer, never heard a concrete answer! Then radio happened and yours truly DJ Andy Young said something that got me thinking.
Why should I be in a relationship now? Why should that guy date me or any other lady for that matter and especially so while still in university in my fresh years of after teenage life?
The guy struggles with ‘kukuingisha box’ for whatever time it is depending on the ladys game, he takes you out for dinner, lunch, pizza date and what not, he calls you almost all the time, he initiates conversations etc,,,point is, he ‘works’. How about the girl, you only dress up and put on make up and APPEAR! Hold on before you get on my case, I know there are girls who pay for the dates but this isn’t for you but those who don’t. So thing is, the mami is always on the receiving end! But ever asked yourself, and then?
What are you giving this guy in return? Look at it like this, this guy has a mum, sister, or female cousins or a cool auntie, that female classmate…
If he wants someone to talk to, he could to his cousin, or a therapist for that matter, if he wants someone to hang out with, there is that female classmate, emotional release, he’s got his hommies man! someone to cook for, he could go to his mamas house….
so I asked myself, is it only for sex? wooow!!! I still don’t even know what to say. Not unless we are business partners…mmmh idk!
What do you think?? talk to me! Share those sentiments…